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Hummingbird
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After this meeting, I feel like we are finally going somewhere. Our topic is still very large and terms still need to get defined, but overall, I feel like we are on the same page. We were able to develop a mission statement, the various institutions involved with rape culture, and even some goals that we want to accomplish as a coalition. I also found it helpful for us to determine where we want to focus in on for our research and case studies. I liked Tabitha's point in that since rape culture is a large issue within Los Angeles and more specifically LMU, we should focus on this area. However, I believe rape culture, whether it be in Los Angeles, LMU, or any other city in the United States, is still rape culture. The music we listen to, the media we see, and the news we hear about, expand to to all of the states, therefore, I find it safe to look at rape culture from a more general national sense. Although I would like to see our group address this even on a global scale, I agree with Dania's point that our experience within the U.S. would be much different from other countries that may have a majority of citizens there believe in a specific religion, ideology, or tradition. Since this is an issue that obviously has not been resolved here in the U.S., we cannot expect to resolve this same issue in other countries. Therefore, I believe that our coalition's decision to research and focus on solutions that can be applied to the U.S. was a good call.

Lastly, I want to address the bit of tensions that began to arise in our meeting. There were moments when I did feel that Ciara was overstepping by cutting some members off when they would bring up very good points. However, it seemed like she was just trying to be efficient, especially because we find ourselves getting off topic often. That being said, I believe we should continue to try to be efficient, but should come to meetings with an open ear while also trying to be respectful when people are talking. We as a group were being loud and having side conversations so I am sure if I were the facilitator, I also would have gotten frustrated and started to cut to the point to get us to move along. Nonetheless, I think everything was dealt with in a calm manner and I am sure we are all just very passionate about the issue which is why we want to share so much, and that is not necessarily a bad problem!


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ToTheLight
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Posted by: Hummingbird

After this meeting, I feel like we are finally going somewhere. Our topic is still very large and terms still need to get defined, but overall, I feel like we are on the same page. We were able to develop a mission statement, the various institutions involved with rape culture, and even some goals that we want to accomplish as a coalition. I also found it helpful for us to determine where we want to focus in on for our research and case studies. I liked Tabitha's point in that since rape culture is a large issue within Los Angeles and more specifically LMU, we should focus on this area. However, I believe rape culture, whether it be in Los Angeles, LMU, or any other city in the United States, is still rape culture. The music we listen to, the media we see, and the news we hear about, expand to to all of the states, therefore, I find it safe to look at rape culture from a more general national sense. Although I would like to see our group address this even on a global scale, I agree with Dania's point that our experience within the U.S. would be much different from other countries that may have a majority of citizens there believe in a specific religion, ideology, or tradition. Since this is an issue that obviously has not been resolved here in the U.S., we cannot expect to resolve this same issue in other countries. Therefore, I believe that our coalition's decision to research and focus on solutions that can be applied to the U.S. was a good call.

Lastly, I want to address the bit of tensions that began to arise in our meeting. There were moments when I did feel that Ciara was overstepping by cutting some members off when they would bring up very good points. However, it seemed like she was just trying to be efficient, especially because we find ourselves getting off topic often. That being said, I believe we should continue to try to be efficient, but should come to meetings with an open ear while also trying to be respectful when people are talking. We as a group were being loud and having side conversations so I am sure if I were the facilitator, I also would have gotten frustrated and started to cut to the point to get us to move along. Nonetheless, I think everything was dealt with in a calm manner and I am sure we are all just very passionate about the issue which is why we want to share so much, and that is not necessarily a bad problem!

Ciara as a moderator is good, she keeps things going.  But, we don't wanna just keep things going. We wanna keep the space safe and open so that even when people who are "taking too long" to get to their point still have the space to make their point heard; so that when someone who doesn't wanna speak still feels like their presence in the coalition is still appreciated but more importantly, valid; so that when we reach the tension we don't bomb the source of the tension with assaults or "you should know better" attitudes.  The point of a moderator is to keep the event going so it ends on time; this isn't an event, this is a coalition.  What we need is a mediator: someone who maintains the space and ensures everyone's presence in it is admired, respected and developed.  We don't need to keep on a time schedule and ensure we stay on topic; staying on topic is what keeps us within the first sentence instead of allowing us to expand our essay into a novel.  We need the space to talk, work through tension, and feel heard.  Ciara did a great job of moderating, but what we need does not require a moderator.  It requires a mediator that reminds us we are all here doing work for the same thing, a thing that has existed beyond our time and will exist beyond this coalition.  This culture was built and instilled way before us, and it will take a lot of work to dismantle it; that doesn't mean we have to rush it or silence people in our attempt to articulate and work out what is wrong with it.  We have to allow people space and time so we can all move forward together and guarantee everyone is with us; it also decreases the tension by allowing people to talk instead of cutting them off or trying to keep things within the frame.  You can't move beyond the frame if you're just gonna try to rush and put another frame up next to it. 


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